I recently headed off to Guitar Center with a gift card burning a hole in my wallet, as mentioned in the previous edition of this blog.
I had been alone behind the closed glass door in the acoustic room for over an hour, fondling every visible budget-priced solid top. The Fender CD140S (which I eventually bought) was the front-runner so while I re-tried others I parked the Fender on the counter instead of letting it scamper back into the herd.
A 40-something staffer came in, probably to quietly assess my sincerity and decide whether I was loitering. I’d seen him there often but had never chatted with him. Leaving the lower bout of the guitar on the counter he tilted it up into playing position and tried a few brief fingerstyle passages. Apparently he’d heard me messing with the old elevator mainstay “GIrl From Ipanema” earlier, because without a word he started comping the prog. I noodled on that just long enough to make it clear that I recognize the situation but I suck at improv, then I stopped playing and made eye contact. The conversation went something like this:
“I thought that was pretty articulate for a $200 guitar.”
“Yes, it is. These are new here, I hadn’t played one. The best $200 acoustic we have used to be one of the Yamahas, but I think this one is better.”
“Yeah, I think I’m gonna take that one home.”
Then the magic started.
He picked up the intro to “Dance With Me” by Orleans. I expected him to play a couple of bars then stop, but he did not. I felt a sorta psychic “green light” signal-vibe.Vocals in 3, 2, 1, ... I was there!
“Dance with me, I want to be your partner ...... “
I hit it. So did he.
Dead-on harmony, precisely pitched, perfectly leveled just slightly below my voice, and expertly soft on the edges. Clear assertive vowels and gently ambiguous consonants with an unobtrusive vocal timbre marked not just an accomplished vocalist, but an adept vocal support player.
The climax of the tune approached, where the melody rises on the lyric “I can take you where you want to go...”. Between lines I quickly muttered “I can’t hit this!” as the looming note rapidly bore down on me. When we got there I chickened out and knocked the peak off the melody, finding a lower chord tone to replace the one unreachable note. He moved with me. Magic? Expertise. Expertise that creates magic.
We ran the entire tune - it isn't very long. He extended his hand across the counter with a big smile, and we shook hands as friends.
These two minutes were gut-deep profound. It was beautiful, it was exhilarating. This is it, guys. This is why I do music.
Truly I do not play just to make noise - not even noise that I like. It isn't about me making music for me. Many claim this motive, and I wish them well. For me every moment playing at home is a rehearsal, It is all about performing. But being the introspective geek, I can’t stop the self-exam at “it is about performing”. That’s not the bottom of it yet.
The playing is about performing.
The performing is about communicating - about touching people, about connecting with people.
One way or another, bone deep, for me music has always been for the purpose of connecting with people.
At first it was about earning approval from my Father.
Later in life it was about earning approval from my schoolmates. I couldn’t be the football star, but if I sat in the stone foyer and played guitar soon a cluster of my contemporaries would gather - many of them with girlish figures.
It has been about the joy between team-mates when the band NAILS a cookin’ tune.
Sometimes it is about affirmation from a nameless audience. It may be applause or other emotional reactions. It may be inquiries about my gear or the riffs I played. Over the years of course there has been the attention from women. Yeah that is a thrill, but when some pimpleface with his jaw open says “Dude! Can you show me that thing you did?”- that may be equally as profound on a different plane.
Through my life guitar has been about connecting with people in all of those ways, but on this day in Guitar Center it was about discovering a brother in 120 seconds. A brother who grew up in an entirely different time & place with a different color skin. There are many ways in which we have not, and perhaps never would, connect. Wondrously, though, when music blossoms hearts and minds connect regardless of other factors. So that is what this installment’s title means - my family grew when I discovered another brother. Because of music, I have many.
Thank you, Reginald. I’ll see you again. Do you know “Black Water”?





